SPINELESS??!!!

It is said don’t judge a book by its cover! I saw this phrase somewhere “No matter what people think of you. Even if people thinks you are a loser. It does not mean you are one. The important thing is what you think about yourself and what you would do to become one. The only wall between you and the kind of person you would like to be is Yourself ". This reminds me of a woman. Once a young girl who were too diligent to her parent to the point that she had been tagged “papas’ girl”. That was fine I suppose but then upon adolescent she was already tagged “puppet” because she took every bit of advise her father gave to her, thinking he knows better. A very close kin called her “spineless” and thinks she is a lesser person. Her relatives addressed her as “too feminine and weak”. Maybe because she talked less. Maybe because she is not argumentative and confrontational in nature. Maybe because she was tagged as a “puppet” for closely following her fathers advise and opinions. Or maybe all of the above.

But you know what? This spineless and weakling little lass had done something that only a woman with courage could do. Well, for me at least! Her husband abandoned her and she proved that she could live and raise a child on her own. She did not have a support thru those years. She did not get herself another husband so she could be happy again or find a strong shoulder to lean on or for purposes of having a strong man supporting and protecting her and her son. Instead, she worked for herself and her child. She transferred from one job to another. She may be not outspoken but she did not shed a tear. She went thru the psychological and emotional turmoil of living and dealing with everyday task of a single parent through the years. She stood alone. Can a weakling woman do that? I remembered her past when I saw this phrase. I know by heart that every word in that phrase are very much true. It is not what other people think of you that matters. The important thing is what you think of yourself and how determined you are to make something out of your life. That’s whats’ matters the most. Have a nice day everyone!!